Oldest friends, Part II
Expanding on my previous post of the people I'm currently (at least somewhat) in touch with, whom I've known the longest. A brief history of how these friendships came to be:
1. Pam (1986). I don't remember meeting Pam, per se, but the first time we hung out was after school. I was supposed be on the bus home but decided to be irresponsible. It may have been one of my first times being consciously rebellious. Pam and I walked downtown, where she bought Madonna's self-titled LP. She took me back to her house, where I met her family and endeared myself to them by writing a horror-story spoof about them. It was also the first time I had seen a child flip off his/her parents. (I'm not saying which child.) Then they drove me home.
2. Mary (1987). The gal who nicknamed me Byf. I named her Phys. (The back story isn't terribly interesting.) I met her on the first day of school in eighth grade as she was walking down the hall with Pam. I recall asking Pam, "Who is this creature?"
3. Mark (1989). Met him in Spanish class in the tenth grade. Realized he was as big a smart-ass as I but better at hiding it. The first time I ever sneaked out of my house I went to Mark's. I don't remember what we accomplished. We probably just smoked on his back porch or something.
4. Jenn (1989). Phys introduced me to her at a high school football game, during which I proceeded to sexually harass her. Strangely enough, she kept coming back for more. (More Byf, not more sexual harassment.) She's the one who popularized Byf as my nickname.
5. Nick (1990). Jenn's onetime boyfriend. I had a crush on him. How stupid. I think the first time I met him he was in his football gear. Maybe that's why.
6. Laura (1991). I'm switching the order a little bit here because writing about all this jogged my memory. I met Laura at journalism camp at Northwestern. (Is there a thing nerdier than band camp? It appears so.) Another kindred smart-ass. On the first day we were looking at the list of rules and puzzling over why there were only 19. So we added a 20th rule: "Do not make fun of the rules." By the end of the summer we had come up with a list of 500 rules and were National High School Institute-Journalism legends.
7. Mara (1991). I remember seeing Mara when we were at Central Intermediate together, but I didn't get to know her until she was a senior in high school and we were on the school paper together. I recall a water fight in the halls, I think, or maybe we were spitting on each other. It involved clear liquids, at any rate.
8. Amy (1991). Another newspaper friend, and today my dearest. She actually had a crush on me. We really got to know each other the summer after my senior year, when she, Mark, another girl and myself would hang out at various lakes, restaurants or parks. (The only places in Midland for teens to play, essentially.)
9. Amy, Danielle, Jessica and Ruth (1992). I met them all at once, for the most part, when I went off to college. I was on crutches and so unable to socialize and meet new people with ease, so I hung out often at a casual high school friend's dorm. They lived on the same floor. Wild times ensued. One especially fond memory is of running up and down the halls of the dorm late at night writing on everyone's dry-erase boards, "Albert, Albert, what are you doing with that big paper rock you made?" (An obscure "Little House" reference.)
10. Dillard (1992). He was also a friend of another girl on that dorm's floor. I was fascinated with him because he wrote militant gay columns in the college newspaper, and I was a burgeoning gaywad myself. I crutched into the girl's room obnoxiously, and he sneered. I don't rightly remember the first time we properly hung out, but I'm sure it involved beer.
OK, now, give me your stories! (I'd especially like to know how some of you recall meeting me.)
1. Pam (1986). I don't remember meeting Pam, per se, but the first time we hung out was after school. I was supposed be on the bus home but decided to be irresponsible. It may have been one of my first times being consciously rebellious. Pam and I walked downtown, where she bought Madonna's self-titled LP. She took me back to her house, where I met her family and endeared myself to them by writing a horror-story spoof about them. It was also the first time I had seen a child flip off his/her parents. (I'm not saying which child.) Then they drove me home.
2. Mary (1987). The gal who nicknamed me Byf. I named her Phys. (The back story isn't terribly interesting.) I met her on the first day of school in eighth grade as she was walking down the hall with Pam. I recall asking Pam, "Who is this creature?"
3. Mark (1989). Met him in Spanish class in the tenth grade. Realized he was as big a smart-ass as I but better at hiding it. The first time I ever sneaked out of my house I went to Mark's. I don't remember what we accomplished. We probably just smoked on his back porch or something.
4. Jenn (1989). Phys introduced me to her at a high school football game, during which I proceeded to sexually harass her. Strangely enough, she kept coming back for more. (More Byf, not more sexual harassment.) She's the one who popularized Byf as my nickname.
5. Nick (1990). Jenn's onetime boyfriend. I had a crush on him. How stupid. I think the first time I met him he was in his football gear. Maybe that's why.
6. Laura (1991). I'm switching the order a little bit here because writing about all this jogged my memory. I met Laura at journalism camp at Northwestern. (Is there a thing nerdier than band camp? It appears so.) Another kindred smart-ass. On the first day we were looking at the list of rules and puzzling over why there were only 19. So we added a 20th rule: "Do not make fun of the rules." By the end of the summer we had come up with a list of 500 rules and were National High School Institute-Journalism legends.
7. Mara (1991). I remember seeing Mara when we were at Central Intermediate together, but I didn't get to know her until she was a senior in high school and we were on the school paper together. I recall a water fight in the halls, I think, or maybe we were spitting on each other. It involved clear liquids, at any rate.
8. Amy (1991). Another newspaper friend, and today my dearest. She actually had a crush on me. We really got to know each other the summer after my senior year, when she, Mark, another girl and myself would hang out at various lakes, restaurants or parks. (The only places in Midland for teens to play, essentially.)
9. Amy, Danielle, Jessica and Ruth (1992). I met them all at once, for the most part, when I went off to college. I was on crutches and so unable to socialize and meet new people with ease, so I hung out often at a casual high school friend's dorm. They lived on the same floor. Wild times ensued. One especially fond memory is of running up and down the halls of the dorm late at night writing on everyone's dry-erase boards, "Albert, Albert, what are you doing with that big paper rock you made?" (An obscure "Little House" reference.)
10. Dillard (1992). He was also a friend of another girl on that dorm's floor. I was fascinated with him because he wrote militant gay columns in the college newspaper, and I was a burgeoning gaywad myself. I crutched into the girl's room obnoxiously, and he sneered. I don't rightly remember the first time we properly hung out, but I'm sure it involved beer.
OK, now, give me your stories! (I'd especially like to know how some of you recall meeting me.)

22 Comments:
At 11:05 PM,
Mark said…
I don't recall anything other than Spanish class about our first meeting. Big hair, Camel lights, Li'l Chef and a kindred dislike for all things Midland were common denominators for the friendship that evolved.
At 11:37 PM,
Aaron said…
It must have been 2000. Me, a young copy editor at Michigan State University's student newspaper. You, a young, professional dashing copy editor from the Star Tribune, brought in by the impossibly perverted Berl to teach us young'uns a thing or two.
Two weeks earlier at a copy editors conference in Baltimore, I had met your boyfriend (and now husband). I flirted with him -- or at least flirted as much as a closeted homo could.
And then, it was you, for only a couple of hours. I remember thinking you were hot. And that I shouldn't think that.
Three years later I moved to Minneapolis as a full-on homo, looked you and the hubby up and that's that.
At 11:37 PM,
Aaron said…
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At 12:42 AM,
Frances said…
Hi,
Found you on nycbloggers.
Nice blog.
Question: What's krogering?
It was not in dictionary.com so I am guessing it is a place to go.
Happy Posting
At 12:50 AM,
Eric said…
I'm the boyfriend (now husband).
Byf's roommate wanted to have sex with me, apparently, and I was too young and just-out-of-the-closet to figure it out. We did once, eventually, after a box of Franzia. I'm so embarrassed. And I was so sick that night. And all the next day. It's one of many reasons I have to never again touch wine from a box.
It was October 1994. I stayed over one night on a couch in the living room. Byf was on the other couch. I had just met him that night, and he had been talking about turning 20 in a few days and being Annie Lennox for Halloween. I remembered thinking that he was only two years older than me. He had fuzzy hair and I was stuck on him.
We stayed up late, after everyone else had gone to bed, talking about Cyndi Lauper's album "Hat Full of Stars," how tragically wrong people were to think that the last thing she had done was "Girls Just Want to have Fun," how she was grossly underrated -- in short, how much we loved her.
He moved out not long after then, and I didn't see him for three years -- except once in the basement at a house party through the smoky darnkedd (we nodded to each other), and once in front of the Student Services building (he had long pink hair at the time).
After those three years, he swept me up directly after I broke up with my boyfriend. Byf and I were working at the State News together at the time. He was a total rebound boyfriend. I fully expected to break up with him before long and go back to my other boyfriend.
It's been nearly 8 years. And I love him uncontrollably.
At 12:54 AM,
Byf said…
Frances: Thanks. Krogering is the gerund form of the noun "Kroger," a grocery chain in the South and Midwest whose slogan is (or was) "Let's go Krogering."
Eric: You're sweet and verbose. I remember it exactly the same way, except when the hell did I have pink hair?
Aaron: I remember thinking you were cute, too, but I couldn't figure out whether you were gay. Now I know I was a fool not to trust my gaydar.
At 3:20 AM,
TCho said…
Wow. Kroger. We had that where I'm from too!
Well I've "met" you because you visited my blog. Thanks for stopping by!
I have this one friend now who I went to college with, but in college I didn't know him at all even though we knew all the same people. I don't even remember ever even seeing him in college. But now we're really good friends, having met thru mutual friends. Funny how things come into a full circle like that..
At 8:46 AM,
danielle said…
Ah, the brody complex. Thanks for reminding us of our days there. The 70's style orange, yellow, brown combo carpet is what I remember best. I also remember our first meeting pretty vividly. The sound of your crutches moving up and down the hallway. Here comes jeff. I also recall spending most of that "albert, albert" night talking about all the pop culture stuff that helped shape who we were. Of course that whole year was full of stuff I remember.. donna youwannaastoia.. julie gieblhouse (have no idea how to spell her last name), it's a great night for a buttf##k (how did we not know you were gay).. and of course my huge crush on dave amell (who btw is a lawyer now).. Thanks for taking me back there.
At 9:19 AM,
Jenn said…
Byf,
I don't recall Nick Warmouth being my boyfriend. Your blog revives in me a deep-seated need to reject any such claim, lest I be rejected ten years post non-coitus by said Mr. Warmouth.
Is my lipgloss on crooked?
Diatomic, diatomic, diatomic.
At 1:54 PM,
Byf said…
Jenn: If he wasn't your boyfriend, then you had a certain interest or something. We'll see what Nick says.
Danielle: It was Giebelhaus. I remember we talked a lot about Stephen King that night and his story "The Last Rung on the Ladder." Makes me want to run out and get that long-lost book.
At 4:51 PM,
TCho said…
Btw, I previously had a post about exactly what happened when I broke my arm. But I deleted it. let me know if you're interested in reading it. I was pretty proud of that post. :-D
At 3:02 PM,
Jenn said…
Why is it disturbing to me that you have a more vivid recollection of my pre-sex love life than I have?
P.S. I have no recollection of how I met you, but for a hazy mammary of you in the journalism room with that sturdy teacher, what was her name?
xox,
Jennbitch
At 7:31 PM,
Mark said…
If you're talking "sturdy" I believe Mrs. Hutchinson is who you mean.
Where's Mara these days? That girl could make me laugh like crazy.
At 8:17 PM,
Byf said…
Yeah, Mrs. H was a real strong gal.
Mara's living it up as a bartender in Portland. I've been out to visit her. She's doing well. Still cute as a button.
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At 9:30 PM,
Penultimatina said…
Byf & Jenn:
It's okay if you do the wrong thing, as long as you do it right.
Best regards,
M. Irons
At 11:02 AM,
jenn said…
Mark: Thanks ever so for the H prompt.
Byf and Cedesse: Diatomic, diatomic, diatomic.
At 6:48 PM,
Douche Destroyer said…
Your return to the S'news created a buzz in 343 Student Services. Wanting to know more about the legend who would be one of my bosses, I nosed around. Mr. Powers faux-whispered, "He's GAAYYY."
My first impressions: You cursed with authority, laughed easily and were killer at the Kevin Bacon Game. What's not to love?
At 11:38 PM,
Byf said…
OK, Cara, do the Fat Boys again.
At 1:17 PM,
Douche Destroyer said…
The Fat Boys were in "Disorderlies" with Ralph Bellamy. Bellamy was in "Pretty Woman" with Julia Roberts. Roberts was in "Flatliners" with ... Kevin Bacon. ("Flatliners" remains one of my favorite pathways to Bacon.)
At 1:35 PM,
Byf said…
Cara: You da bomb.
Jenn & Phys: Once a salt, always a salt.
At 4:59 PM,
Douche Patrol said…
Midland is perhaps the only place on earth where a closeted homo, a son of a preacher man, an angry gritter and a rebellious chick from a family straight out of a Laura Ingalls Wilder book can find common ground. The hallowed, dioxin infested ground of Midland.
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